Once you start taking action, you'll get feedback as to whether you're doing the right things or wrong things.The data, advise, help, suggestions, direction and criticism you get will help you to adjust and move forward. Once you have asked for feedback on what you are doing, you'll need to be willing to respond to it.
You will get positive and negative feedback. Obviously we prefer the positive feedback - results, money, praise, awards, happiness etc. Positive feedback is what tells us that we are on the right course and we're doing the right thing.
While, we prefer positive feedback, we need to remember that we will also get some negative feedback. And while this does not make us feel good, it tells us we are off course and that we are headed in the wrong direction. This is beneficial feedback! This negative feedback tells us what we can improve on - you can correct whatever it is that you're doing wrong to get closer to what you want.
As Jack Canfield writes, "To reach your goals more quickly, you need to welcome, receive, and embrace all the feedback that comes your way."
Jack also illustrates 3 ways of responding to feedback that didn't work:
1. Caving in and quitting: Its easier not to cave in when you receive feedback if you remember that feedback is information that can help you. Think of it as correctional guidance instead of criticism.
2. Getting mad at the source of the feedback: getting angry at the person who provided you with this "correctional guidance" will only push the person and the feedback away.
3. Ignoring the feedback: Why would you want to ignore feedback that could potentially help you to achieve your goals?
You need to remember that most people will not voluntarily give you feedback - they are as uncomfortable with possible confrontation as what you are. So, to get honest and open feedback, you're going to have to ask for it.
A good questions to ask your friends and family is "How do you see me limiting myself?"
Armed with the feedback you are given, you can create a plan of action for replacing your limiting behaviors with more effective and productive ones.
Not all feedback is useful or accurate. Consider the source it is coming from. If several people are telling you the same thing, there is probably some truth in it.
Jack Canfield also gives us a list of what to do when the feedback tells you you've failed. I am not going to go into detail with this - you can read more about it on page 162/3 in the Big White Book - The Success Principles:
1. Acknowledge that you did the best you could with the awareness, knowledge and skills you had at the time.
2. Acknowledge that you survived and that you can absolutely cope with any and all of the consequences or results.
3. Write down everything you learned from the experience.
4. Make sure to thank everyone for their feedback and their insights
5. Clean up any messes that have been created and deliver any communications that are necessary to complete the experience
6. Take some time to go back and review your successes
7. Regroup
8. Refocus your vision.
Until next time..
Yours in Success
Samantha Prinsloo
Samantha Prinsloo, International Meta Life Coach, and founder of Life Coach 4U, Master Coaching, The Success Coach and a leading authority on Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE resources from Samantha Prinsloo now at: http://www.lifecoach-4u.com
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