Success Principle #17 - Ask! Ask! Ask!

Asking for something is still a challenge that holds most people back - but it is still the most powerful principle of all!
Like many people, you may be holding yourself back from asking for information you need, assistance, support, money and time that you need to fulfill your vision.

People are afraid of looking foolish or needy or rejection - so they don't ask for what they need. By doing this, you are actually saying no to yourself before anyone else can.

Jack Canfield has given us 5 steps to guide us in asking for what we want:

1. Ask as if you expect to get it. (ie ask with a positive expectation, ask as if you expect to get a 'yes')
2. Assume you can. (ie Assume that you CAN get a salary increase etc. Never assume against yourself)
3. Ask someone who can give it to you. (ie "Who is authorised to approve ...")
4. Be clear and specific. (ie don't say "I want a salary increase". Do say "I want a salary increase of $500 a month)
5. Ask repeatedly. (ie persist - do not give up)

You need to realize that whenever you're asking others to participate in the fulfillment of your goals, there ARE going to be people who say 'no' to you. Those people could have other commitments or responsibilities - but it's not a reflection on you.

They key is not to give up. Keep asking when someone says no - eventually somewhere along the road, someone WILL say yes.

"To be successful, you have to take risks, and one of the risks is the willingness to risk rejection" - Jack Canfield

Take some time out today to make a list of things that you want that you don't ask for.
Next to each one of those things, write down how you stop yourself from asking. (What is your fear?)
Now, write down what it is costing you not to ask.
Then write down the benefit you would get if you were to ask.

Jack Canfield also suggests that you complete the above exercise for each category outlined in Principle 3 ("Decide what you want"):

• Financial
• Career
• Fun time and recreation
• Health
• Relationships
• Personal projects and hobbies
• Contribution to the larger community

Till next week..

Yours in Success
Sam


Samantha Prinsloo, International Meta Life Coach, and founder of Master Coaching and a leading authority on Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE resources from Samantha Prinsloo now at: http://www.lifecoach-4u.com